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Today is World Cancer Day, an international day marked on February 4 to raise awareness of cancer and to encourage its prevention, detection, and treatment. I didn't share many photos or thoughts during my cancer journey (Stage 3 Ovarian Cancer), so today is a rare day for me to share these photos from Nov 2019 when I had just completed all of my chemotherapy treatments. You can see my attempts to paint on my eyebrows, try out fake eyelashes (that lasted a day and then I gave up, but I did get a good laugh trying), or just go bare. By the miracle of cold capping, I was able to save my head hair, but lost all other body hair.
 
Today I was inspired to share some random thoughts of my cancer experience to hopefully help friends and family of cancer patients as well as to help cancer patients. Please feel free to reply to this post if you have any ideas to add or forward to a friend if you think it might help. The one thing I did learn in going through cancer diagnosis and treatment is that most of us have been impacted by this disease in one way or another. There are so many resources out there. Whether you are a caregiver or a patient, you are not alone.
 
For Friends & Family of Cancer Patients
 
1. It was always so helpful when friends and family would offer a specific thing they could do for me rather than ask for me to reach out with anything I needed. Most of us are not great about asking for help, but it's much easier if the person offers something specific. I had friends offer to organize a meal train (loved it!), contribute food to the meal train, walk my dog on days I couldn't, take me to my acupuncture appointments when my husband wasn't able to, etc. It was much easier to say yes when something specific was offered. I now try to do the same for others.
 
2. Ask what is the biggest concern that your friend is facing and try to help them with it. One of my concerns in the beginning was what would I do during my six week surgery recovery because I don't like to be inactive. A friend knew this and sent me a care package with coloring books, funny reading books, a list of shows to watch - things to help pass the time. Another one of my concerns was losing my eyebrows. A friend offered to go eyebrow pencil shopping with me, which on my own would have been very difficult given the circumstances. She helped to make it a fun activity.
 
3. Please consider not sharing all of your cancer stories with your friend or family member about so-and-so who had cancer and died. I felt like a cancer magnet as soon as I mentioned to anyone that I had cancer. Everyone seemed to want to share their stories about who they knew who had cancer (and most of the stories I heard did not have happy endings). If you want to share about a friend or family member and you think it will be helpful or hopeful, by all means, share. I was already concerned about my own mortality and recurrence and did not want to hear stories of people dying from cancer. I have one friend who told me a story about someone she knew who died from chemo (as I'm going through chemo). It served me no purpose to hear this story. Words have power. I definitely have compassion and want to hear about others who have cancer and be there for them and their loved ones, it's just that it felt a little too raw and happened much too often while I was in the throes of it all. While I was going through it, I just needed to be surrounded by positivity and hope.
 
4. Find out when certain important appointments are (chemo treatments, surgery dates) and reach out on those days. It was always so sweet when friends and family remembered my chemo days and wished me well.
 
For Cancer Patients
 
1. If you have to go through chemotherapy, and you want to save your head hair, cold capping does work! As you can see in the photos above, I lost my eyelashes and eyebrows. My head would have been bald. Those caps work. They are not pleasant to go through (I had 10 hour days with minus 32 degrees F on my head for each chemo day), but worth it for me without a doubt.
 
2. One of the possible negative side effects from my type of chemo is neuropathy. I'm not sure if this helped, but during chemo treatments, I had cold packs on my hands and feet. I also did acupuncture once a week (which is supposed to help with this) and I had zero neuropathy.
 
3. Accept help. Your friends and family want to help. Let them.
 
4. Reach out for support. There is so much support out there, many online groups (for these Covid times) and so many wonderful free services. I took advantage of the Clearity Foundation's offer for 10 free counseling sessions. I also enjoyed free massages through The Sandra Wing Foundation. These are just two of the MANY resources and offerings for cancer patients. Since going through treatment, I have learned of Imerman Angels and Breasties. If you search the internet for what you are looking for, many resources will pop up.
 
5. Realize that just because you have cancer, does not mean you have to see yourself as unhealthy. I loved it when my friend Janet said I was the healthiest cancer patient she had ever seen. As many of you know, prior to cancer I had written a book called Four Quadrant Living that talks about the four quadrants of health - Mind, Body, Relationships, and Environment. Everything that I had written about was definitely put to the test during my cancer diagnosis and treatment. I can without a doubt say that living a Four Quadrant Life helped me get through treatment with relative "ease". I focused on how I was healthy, rather than focusing on the cancer. I managed my stress (Mind) by journaling, listening to guided meditations, talking to my husband. I was healthy in my Body by walking, eating well, getting a good night's sleep. I didn't let the cancer overtake my Relationships by letting it be all I talked about. Having cancer let me connect with my friends and family on a deeper level so it really strengthened my relationships. I spent a lot of time sitting and walking in nature (Environment) which definitely helped my recovery. There are always silver linings and things to be grateful for. By focusing on the positive, I was able to keep my spirits up. It doesn't mean it was always unicorns and rainbows, but I was able to stay positive most of the time. On the days you feel down, that's okay. You are entitled. Cancer sucks.
 
6. Be your own advocate with doctors. Doctors do not have a crystal ball. There are so many factors involved in getting cancer and being treated for it. I sought out doctors who were "my people", the ones that I felt understood me and who were hopeful and positive. Ask as many questions as you need to. Get second opinions. You are your own best advocate for your health. Trust your gut and do not settle for a doctor who is not giving you the time of day or who is doom and gloom (and believe me, I encountered a few of those and quickly changed to another doctor).
 
I'm sure there are many other thoughts I have about cancer, but I just thought I would jot down a few today in honor of World Cancer Day. Hope it's helpful.
 

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Dina Colman Mitchell, MBA, MA, NBC-HWC a widely published health coach, is the founder of Four Quadrant Living. Dina credits four quadrant living for helping her go through her own cancer diagnosis and treatment last year with grace, strength, and health. Now cancer-free, Dina continues to devote her time to helping others around the world live healthier, happier lives. Her Amazon Top 100 book, Four Quadrant Living: A Guide to Nourishing Your Mind, Body, Relationships, and Environment, shows readers how to take responsibility for their health and make healthy living a way of life. Contact Dina at  This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


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The beginning of a new year is a great time to reflect on the year behind and look forward to the year ahead. A great way to do this is with The 2-0-2-1 Plan.

Eight years ago, I created The 2-0-1-3 Plan and it resonated with so many of you. I have people asking every year if I will be sending out the newest year’s plan. We’ve missed a few years, but it seems like the perfect time to be reflecting back and looking forward. Be sure to comment below with your plan.

The 2-0-2-1 Plan is about starting off the New Year with intention, motivation, and accountability for health and happiness. It's okay if some of your items from last year are still on the list this year.

Forward this on to your friends and family and let's see how many people we can get on board to join in. Here's how it works.

2  Come up with TWO actionable and doable healthy living ideas. Be specific. Make them very customized for you. Think about your weakness areas. How do you do in the areas of stress management, having fun, sleeping well, eating healthy, exercising, having nurturing relationships, and living in a nontoxic environment (this can be related to your emotional or physical environment)? Are you pretty good about working out, but don't take any time for stress management? If so, don't put exercise on your list, but rather, put something that will reduce your stress. Commit to work on the areas that receive less of your focus. You will see in the examples below that the ideas are both manageable and quantifiable. Try to be as specific as you can, and don't over-commit. You can always over-deliver.

Here are a few ideas:

  • Meditate for five minutes three days a week first thing in the morning to start the day grounded.
  • Spend less time with those people in your life who make you feel worse about yourself (you can be specific with names, if you want).
  • Do not drink alcohol during the week, only on Friday and Saturday nights.
  • Get 7,500 to 10,000 steps at least four days a week (wear a device to track it).
  • Go to bed by 11pm every night so that you get at least 7 hours of sleep.
  • Make one fun plan a week that makes you happy.

Commit to doing the ZERO "do it now" item. What is the one thing that has been on your list to do for years that you know would benefit you in some way—career, health, relationships, personal—but you just have never done it? Commit to it to do it this year.

This one is really important! So many of you reported in that you did your "0" from last year. Way to go! In 2013, my "0" was to join Toastmasters which I have wanted to do for TWENTY YEARS! I finally did it that year and it has been one of the best things I've done. Setting the intention of doing it at the beginning of the year and stating it publicly helped to finally make it happen! Trust yourself. You know your "0". Let's make it happen this year.

Here are a few ideas:

  • Get out of a toxic relationship that has been bringing you down.
  • Make a change in your job if you feel miserable every day. (Sometimes this may not be possible due to financial constraints, but oftentimes even if we believe this to be the case, we do have choices that we have not allowed ourselves to believe in. Now's the time to believe in them and explore them.)
  • Hire a health coach and lose the weight for good.
  • Find a workout regime you like so that you look forward to exercise rather than see it as a chore. For some ideas, read Movement by Gypsy.
  • Join a support group (e.g. AA, Al-Anon, loss, cancer). If you need help, there are groups out there for you. Sharing your pain with others does help.
  • Write your memoir.
  • Volunteer.
  • Take classes.

2  Take at least TWO minutes every day to ground yourself in the day. Whether you want to take the time in the morning, afternoon, or evening, be sure to take them. Ground yourself in the day. You can do this by taking a few deep breaths allowing your mind to free itself from the mental chatter. Set an intention for the day (such as being mindful, grateful, open, strong, playful). Do a ritual if you choose (light a candle, share with your spouse one highlight from the day, write in your journal).

1  Choose ONE word for the year. Come up with one word that you want to represent you in 2021. Give it some thought because you want it to really encompass what you want for the year. When you have decided on your word, write it out in big letters and put it somewhere you will see it every day. Put it on your bathroom mirror, by your computer, on your vision board, at work, in your wallet. Some of my past year words include "confidence", "openness", and "surrender".

Here are a few ideas: faith, love, forgiveness, dream, health, peace, strength, hope, play, truth, trust, imagine, and share.

2-0-2-1  Take some time this week and think about your 2-0-2-1 plan. Be sure to comment below and let us know. It is helpful to share it with others to make it more real and to help hold you accountable. I will share my 2-0-2-1 plan in the comments below. If you want to share some of your plan, but not all of it, that's perfectly fine. Share what you feel comfortable with and keep private what you want.

I look forward to hearing from you. Let's make 2021 a year filled with health, happiness, and ... (insert your word here!).

And, of course, if you need help with making any part of your 2-0-2-1 plan happen, FQL can help you!


Be sure to share your 2-0-2-1 Plan in the comments section below!

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Dina Colman Mitchell, MBA, MA, NBC-HWC a widely published health coach, is the founder of Four Quadrant Living. Dina credits four quadrant living for helping her go through her own cancer diagnosis and treatment last year with grace, strength, and health. Now cancer-free, Dina continues to devote her time to helping others around the world live healthier, happier lives. Her Amazon Top 100 book, Four Quadrant Living: A Guide to Nourishing Your Mind, Body, Relationships, and Environment, shows readers how to take responsibility for their health and make healthy living a way of life. Contact Dina at  This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.


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For me, living healthy is an active plan. I have to work at it. It takes time to shop for good food, make healthy meals, exercise, manage my stress, and so on. Sometimes I feel strong and the healthy living comes more easily. Other times, I'm low in willpower and I need all of the help I can get. Here are a few ideas of what helps me stay on track.

1. Do it with a buddy.
I am definitely more likely to get out for my run or walk (or insert exercise here) when I schedule to meet a friend. In fact, in about 20 minutes, I'm heading out to meet my friend Christy for a run. I can definitely say that if I weren't scheduled to meet her today, I would skip the run to finish this newsletter instead!

The same thing applies to eating well. My co-worker Traci and I have started the Whole 30 eating plan today. She and I have been texting today about what meals we are planning for the week and because we are doing it together, she will bring food for me and I will bring food for her. I would not have the momentum or motivation if I weren't doing it with a friend.

What are you wanting to do more of? Eat well, exercise, reduce stress? Who can you ask to do it with you?

2. Track yourself.
Many patients I work with have great success with tracking what they eat or when they exercise. Tracking can come in many forms. You can use a piece of paper and write it down. You could print out or buy a calendar and track it there. There are also some great fitness programs like My Fitness Pal which tracks what you eat and you can log your exercise, too.

Personally, I am in love with my FitBit. I just bought the new FitBit Blaze. I've set my goal for 10,000 steps per day and my watch tells me how close I am. I am motivated to walk a little more at the end of the day if I haven't yet met my goal. The cool thing about FitBit is that you can participate in challenges with your friends. I'm in a Work Week Hustle challenge with some of my friends and family. It shows how many steps we each have and tracks us for the week. You get notices like "Alan pulled past Chanelle for first place" and you can cheer each other on.

3. Help yourself.
When I am in a low willpower state, it is best for me to not have any temptation food in the house. Since I am now starting on this Whole 30 plan for the month, I packed up a bag of any unapproved foods that I know would be tempting and I gave them to a friend. They might still be edible in a month, but I don't need them as a daily test of my willpower. I might have a craving, but if I don't have the food in the house, it makes it one step easier for me to resist!

The same goes for working out. Some clients say it helps them to pack their gym clothes with them because they know if they go home at the end of the work day to change, they won't get themselves back out again.

What are the things you can do to help set yourself up for success?

4. Remember that small steps count.
I will often hear people say that they don't have a big enough time chunk in their day to get to the gym, so they just opt not to go. Every movement counts! Even if you can take three 10 minutes walks throughout the day. That matters! Even if you only have time to do one minute of deep breathing, that can change what is happening in your body physiologically! Even if you skip a few extra bites of the dessert you have indulged in, that counts! It all adds up. No step forward toward healthy living is too small.

5. Think about the why
I've seen people have the most success with sustainable change when they tap into their "why". Why do you want to eat healthier, exercise more, manage your stress? Do you want to live longer? Keep up with your kids? Fit into your wardrobe again? Regain your self confidence? Whatever the reason, tapping into the why can help you see the long term goal and help you stay strong and motivated.

For me, I want to give myself my best chance for health to beat the odds from my high risk of getting cancer. That's what keeps me on this quest. Plus, when I am exercising and eating well I feel happy, vibrant, alive, and confident. Who doesn't want more of that in their life?!

6. Stay true to you.
People sometimes feel that others derail them or they feel pressured to get off course. I like this advice from the Whole 30 program. "You never, ever, ever have to eat anything you don't want to eat. Just because it's your sister's birthday, or your best friend's wedding, or your company picnic does not mean you have to eat anything." Remember, it's always a choice. YOUR choice. You are the one who has the most benefit to advocate for you. You are the one who most reaps the rewards!

What helps you?
Which of these ideas can you try? What other ideas do you have for keeping on track with healthy living? Reply to this email or post on the blog page and let us know!

In my book, Four Quadrant Living: Making Healthy Living Your New Way of Life, I write: "People often think that living healthy means sacrifice, but when healthy living comes from within--from your values, beliefs, and vision you have for yourself--eating well and making lifestyle changes doesn't feel like a sacrifice. It feels like a privilege, an active choice, and simply your new way of life." I couldn't have said it better myself. :)

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Dina Colman, MA, MBA is an award-winning author, healthy living coach, and founder of Four Quadrant Living. Her Amazon Top 100 book, Four Quadrant Living: Making Healthy Living Your New Way of Life, guides readers to make healthy living a part of their daily lives, leading to greater health, vitality, and happiness. Contact Dina at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

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We typically hear about spring cleaning in terms of cleaning out our "stuff". And I'm all for cleaning out our stuff. So much so, that I devote an entire chapter to it in my book, Four Quadrant Living: Making Healthy Living Your New Way of Life. The chapter is entitled "Free Space, Free Mind." The idea is that when we have a cluttered environment, we have a cluttered mind. You can click on the link to get some ideas for some serious house spring cleaning!

But what about making sure the other areas of our lives are clean and clear? We know that looking at one quadrant tells only 1/4th of the story. How is your Mind? Do you spend too much time replaying the past or worrying about the future? Do you spend too much time thinking and talking about your "story". If so, remember that you have the power to change your mindset at any time. You can be happy. Just choose to do so. Start focusing on the positive. Keep a gratitude journal and write in it daily. What are you grateful for in your life? What are the things you enjoy? Take a few moments every day to nourish your mind. Shut off the TV and put away the iPhone and just be. Don't do, just be. It reminds me of my favorite postcard I saw years ago "Having a great time. Wish I were here." Be. Here. Now.

What about cleaning out the Body quadrant? Are you feeding yourself good, healthy food that gives you that spring in your step? Or are you eating the foods that make you feel sluggish? I know for me personally, I need to clean up my eating a bit. If you are finding it hard to do, get an accountable buddy, track your foods with a tool like My Fitness Pal, and connect with why you want to eat healthier (because it makes me feel better and gives me more energy!). Of course there are other ways to do some spring cleaning in the Body quadrant including adding some (fun) exercise, getting better sleep, and using healthier products.

We have to remember that Relationships play a role in our health, too. Are you actively choosing the people in your life? My test is this: After spending time with someone ask yourself if you feel better or worse after seeing them. There are some people who make me feel smart and funny and beautiful; others who make me feel bad about myself. If you are spending time with the latter, it may be time for some friend spring cleaning!

We already touched on the Environment quadrant above, which can also include not just getting rid of the clutter, but also removing the toxic products we use in our house.

Write in the comments below and let me know how you choose to actively create and live your life with some FQL spring cleaning!

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Dina Colman, MA, MBA is an award-winning author, healthy living coach, and founder of Four Quadrant Living. Dina has a private practice helping clients live healthier and happier lives. Her Amazon Top 100 book, Four Quadrant Living: Making Healthy Living Your New Way of Life, guides readers to make healthy living a part of their daily lives, leading to greater health, vitality, and happiness. Contact Dina at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

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The beginning of a new year is a great time to reflect on the year behind and look forward to the year ahead. A great way to do this is with The 2-0-1-6 Plan. Three years ago, I created The 2-0-1-3 Plan and it resonated with so many of you, so we've done it every year since. Be sure to comment below with your plan.

The 2-0-1-6 Plan is about starting off the New Year with intention, motivation, and accountability for health and happiness. It's okay if some of your items from last year are still on the list this year.

Forward this on to your friends and family and let's see how many people we can get on board to join in. Here's how it works.

2  Come up with TWO actionable and doable healthy living ideas. Be specific. Make them very customized for you. Think about your weakness areas. How do you do in the areas of stress management, having fun, sleeping well, eating healthy, exercising, having nurturing relationships, and living in a nontoxic environment (this can be related to your emotional or physical environment)? Are you pretty good about working out, but don't take any time for stress management? If so, don't put exercise on your list, but rather, put something that will reduce your stress. Commit to work on the areas that receive less of your focus. You will see in the examples below that the ideas are both manageable and quantifiable. Try to be as specific as you can, and don't over-commit. You can always over-deliver.

Here are a few ideas:

  • Meditate for five minutes three days a week first thing in the morning to start the day grounded.
  • Spend less time with those people in your life who make you feel worse about yourself (you can be specific with names, if you want).
  • Do not drink alcohol during the week, only on Friday and Saturday nights.
  • Get 7,500 to 10,000 steps at least four days a week (wear a pedometer to track it).
  • Go to bed by 11pm every night so that you get at least 7 hours of sleep.
  • Make one fun plan a week that makes you happy.

Commit to doing the ZERO "do it now" item. What is the one thing that has been on your list to do for years that you know would benefit you in some way—career, health, relationships, personal—but you just have never done it? Commit to it to do it this year.

This one is really important! So many of you reported in that you did your "0" from last year. Way to go! In 2013, my "0" was to join Toastmasters which I have wanted to do for TWENTY YEARS! I finally did it that year and it has been one of the best things I've done. Setting the intention of doing it at the beginning of the year and stating it publicly helped to finally make it happen! Trust yourself. You know your "0". Let's make it happen this year.

Here are a few ideas:

  • Get out of a toxic relationship that has been bringing you down.
  • Make a change in your job if you feel miserable every day. (Sometimes this may not be possible due to financial constraints, but oftentimes even if we believe this to be the case, we do have choices that we have not allowed ourselves to believe in. Now's the time to believe in them and explore them.)
  • Go on the trip you've been talking about taking for years. If your spouse doesn't want to join you, go with a friend, by yourself, or an organized group.
  • Hire a health coach and lose the weight for good.
  • Find a workout regime you like so that you look forward to exercise rather than see it as a chore. For some ideas, read Movement by Gypsy.
  • Join a support group (e.g. AA, Al-Anon, loss, cancer). If you need help, there are groups out there for you. Sharing your pain with others does help.
  • Write your memoir.
  • Volunteer.
  • Take classes.

1  Choose ONE word for the year. Come up with one word that you want to represent you in 2016. Give it some thought because you want it to really encompass what you want for the year. When you have decided on your word, write it out in big letters and put it somewhere you will see it everyday. Put it on your bathroom mirror, by your computer, on your vision board, at work, in your wallet. In 2013, my word was "confidence", in 2014 it was "openness", and in 2015 it was "surrender". Below, I say what my new word is.

Here are a few ideas: faith, love, forgiveness, dream, health, peace, strength, hope, play, truth, trust, imagine, and share.

6  Take SIX minutes every day to ground yourself in the day. Whether you want to take the six minutes in the morning, afternoon, or evening, be sure to take them. Ground yourself in the day. You can do this by taking a few deep breaths allowing your mind to free itself from the mental chatter. Set an intention for the day (such as being mindful, grateful, open, strong, playful). Do a ritual if you choose (light a candle, share with your spouse one highlight from the day, write in your journal). I talk more about this in chapter 9, "Losing My Mind(fulness)," of my book, Four Quadrant Living: Making Healthy Living Your New Way of Life.

2-0-1-6  Take some time this week and think about your 2-0-1-6 plan. Be sure to comment below and let us know. It is helpful to share it with others to make it more real and to help hold you accountable. I've shared my 2-0-1-6 plan in the comments below. If you want to share some of your plan, but not all of it, that's perfectly fine. Share what you feel comfortable with and keep private what you want.

I look forward to hearing from you. Let's make 2016 a year filled with health, happiness, and ... (insert your word here!).

And, of course, if you need help with making any part of your 2-0-1-6 plan happen, 4QL can help you!


Be sure to share your 2-0-1-6 Plan in the comments section below!

________

Dina Colman, MA, MBA is an award-winning author, healthy living coach, and founder of Four Quadrant Living. Dina has a private practice helping clients live healthier and happier lives. Her Amazon Top 100 book, Four Quadrant Living: Making Healthy Living Your New Way of Life, guides readers to make healthy living a part of their daily lives, leading to greater health, vitality, and happiness. Contact Dina at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

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